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Pet lover is left with the neighbor’s cat

DEAR HARRIETTE: I really love pets, especially cats, and I always make sure they’re well taken care of by taking them to the nearest vet to keep them healthy and safe. Recently, my neighbor asked me to look after her cat for what she said would be a few days, but it’s now been four weeks, and she still hasn’t returned. While I love animals and have been doing my best to care for the cat, this wasn’t something I agreed to. It’s starting to become a strain on my schedule and finances, and I’m concerned about the added responsibility. I don’t want the cat to suffer due to my neighbor’s lack of responsibility, but I really don’t know how to address this with her without creating conflict. – Unexpected Pet Responsibilities DEAR UNEXPECTED PET RESPONSIBILITIES: This is no time to be passive. Call your neighbor and tell her that you have cared for her cat for as long as you can; it is time to return and take it back. If she says she is unable to take her cat back, tell her you are sorry, but this is her responsibility. Perhaps she should call an animal shelter or place an ad to find a new home for the cat, but your home is not an option.

Elizabeth Ko, M.D.

Dear Doctors: I’ve read that people who gain weight during the holidays often don’t manage to lose it again. Is that right? In the last few years, it has happened to me. I have several Christmas parties on my calendar, and I am looking for tips on how not to gain weight but still have fun.

Roommate drags friend into conflict

DEAR HARRIETTE: My roommate and his girlfriend constantly bicker, and I always end up being dragged into the middle of their arguments. It’s frustrating because I feel like I’m being forced to pick sides when I don’t even want to be involved at all. To make matters worse, I can’t help but feel bad for his girlfriend because, frankly, my roommate is wrong most of the time. He’s selfish, dismissive of her feelings and stingy when it comes to sharing expenses or treating her to a nice date. I can tell she’s unhappy with how he treats her, but for some reason, she stays with him.

Elizabeth Ko, M.D.

Dear Doctors: I’m a 68-year-old man who cannot remember the last time I awoke in the morning feeling fully rested. My friends laugh and say those days are long gone for people our age. Is this true? I have decent sleep habits in that I’m in bed reading by 9 p.m. and the lights are out by 11 p.m.

Shy reader contemplates taking next step

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been friends with this guy for two years, and over time, I’ve started to feel like our connection might be more than just friendship. He’s always been kind, thoughtful and supportive, and I really enjoy spending time with him. Lately, I’ve caught myself looking at him differently and wondering if he feels the same way about me. There are little moments – like when we lock eyes, share a laugh or have deeper conversations – that make me think he might like me as more than just a friend, too.

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Emotional attachments hinders decluttering

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been trying to declutter my home for months, focusing on makeup, dresses and other items that no longer serve a purpose, but I keep getting stuck. Every time I start sorting through my belongings, I find myself emotionally attached to certain things, even though they’re no longer necessary.

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