(AP) – The Rev. Wayne Lee leads an English-speaking church of second- and third-generation Chinese Americans in the heart of Philadelphia's Chinatown.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I wanted to offer another option to “Overweight,” the woman hurt by her brother’s comments about her post-pregnancy weight. Could she not go a step further and ask him to babysit for an hour or two a few times a week, so she can have time to herself, to sleep or cook or exercise? Or could he contribute to a healthy meal delivery subscription? I feel if one points out a problem, one must be willing to be part of the solution. – All Is Well DEAR ALL IS WELL: You and several other readers suggested that the brother should offer to babysit for his sister. Great idea. Stop criticizing and start helping! To all of the family members who think they are being helpful when they share their opinions about new mothers’ bodies, generally speaking, it’s best to keep your mouth shut.
Two things can be true at once. Here are two things that are true about this year’s presidential race: One, Donald Trump is the most fundamentally unfit presidential candidate ever nominated by a major party. He’s a congenital liar, a dangerous demagogue, a convicted felon who has long shown contempt for the Constitution and has increasingly shown symptoms of psychological instability. Worse even than all that, he was the only sitting president in U.S. history to attempt to illegally, violently retain power after losing an election. For the good of the country — and virtually regardless of the electoral alternative — America must not return Trump to office.
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DEAR HARRIETTE: My partner and I have different political views, and with the election coming up, we’ve been clashing more often. I’m a strong supporter of Kamala Harris and her policies, while my partner has a different perspective. We’ve always respected each other’s opinions, but lately, our discussions have turned into heated arguments. I genuinely don’t want our relationship to be affected by politics, but I also feel that these important conversations shouldn’t be avoided. How should I approach this? Any advice would be great. – Political Disagreements DEAR POLITICAL DISAGREEMENTS: This political season is heated for anyone who cares to participate in it – and that is good. In America, we have the right to discuss and debate our views. That should also be true in your relationship. You may want to talk about how and when you two can discuss your differing views, establishing boundaries around such volatile topics. But it is important to know what each of you believes is important, what your values are and what you are willing to accept from your partner. Plenty of couples fall on different sides of the political fence and are able to have healthy bonds, but that is not always true. You should explore your beliefs and figure out if you are politically compatible – along with the other areas where you mesh.