Hello, dear readers, and welcome to our monthly letters column. The weather is warming up, which means many of us can take our exercise routines outdoors.
DEAR HARRIETTE: One of my coworkers keeps going to my boss about every little thing he thinks I’m doing “wrong” – even when it’s something minor, subjective or easily fixable. It feels like he’s constantly monitoring me, waiting for any small mistake or oversight, and instead of coming to me directly, he escalates it to my supervisor. This has been happening more and more lately, and honestly, it’s starting to drive me nuts. I’m doing my best to stay professional, but it’s becoming difficult to focus when I feel like I’m being watched and second-guessed all the time.
It’s hard to know what I’m waiting for, but I’m waiting for something.
As Donald Trump vows to deport millions of undocumented migrants, NBC’s Kristen Welker asked the president several times if he felt bound by the due process clause of the Constitution. And several times the president answered, “I don’t know.”
DEAR HARRIETTE: I’m a newish mom. My daughter is approaching her first birthday, but I still feel like a newbie. Learning all the tricks of motherhood has been a whirlwind, but something I didn’t expect to be so hard is the shift I’ve been feeling in so many of my adult relationships. I am the only one from my immediate friend group who is a mother. When I’m having a tough time with my daughter and need support, I’m afraid to be a burden to my friends. When I’m having great days with my daughter, I neglect my friends. When I do see them, they forget that my child exists or forget that I exist as they ooh and aah over photos of her. I don’t want to hold anything against them because it feels like maybe I’m the one who can’t be pleased right now. Is there any way to create a better balance for me? How can I be a mom and have my childless friends, too? – Solo Mom DEAR SOLO MOM: As impossible as this may seem, you need to expand your friend group, adding in at least one mom. In this way, you will have someone to talk to who understands your new reality. That will take the pressure off of your other friends.
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• All lined up in the starting gate for the start of a Scouts Soap Box Derby heat were racers Chad Duff, Jonathan Nunley, Jeremy Freeman, and Cale Challis.
DEAR HARRIETTE: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two months now, and while things started off really strong, there’s something that’s been bothering me more and more: He refuses to show me where he lives. It feels intentional and calculated. Every time I’ve brought it up, he dodges the question or gives a vague excuse. The first time, he said his apartment was “under renovation.” Then a week later, he said his roommate was having family over and the place was “a mess.” Another time he claimed he just “prefers going out.”
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We’ve gotten a new tidbit of information about efforts by the Biden White House and some in the press to cover up President Joe Biden’s age-related infirmity. It comes from a new book, “2024: How Trump Retook the White House and the Democrats Lost America,” by reporters Tyler Pager, Josh Dawsey and Isaac Arnsdorf of the New York Times, Wall Street Journal and Washington Post, respectively. The authors report that “top White House aides debated having (Biden) undergo a cognitive test to prove his fitness for a second term but ultimately decided against the move,” according to a report on the book